Illustrative exampleElena, 29
Atlanta, GA
Worship leader. Loves slow Sunday mornings and Proverbs 31.
✦ Faith-Centered Dating
Faith-rooted love, without the noise.
Modesty is a sanctuary for single Black Christians seeking marriage — faith-rooted profiles, intentional conversations, and speed-dating rooms that feel more like Sunday dinner than an endless swipe.
Free to join. Get 15 days of full Premium access — including speed-dating rooms — then $34.99 every 30 days. Cancel anytime.
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"For the vision is yet for an appointed time… though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come."
Habakkuk 2:3
Speed-dating rooms
Six short steps. One real conversation.
Instead of trading messages for weeks, you meet face to face in a timed room and find out quickly whether there's something worth pursuing.
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Choose your role
Dater if you're looking for a date, Datee if you'd rather be matched with a dater.
- 2
Set your round length
Anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes per date. Your call, every time.
- 3
Pick how many dates
One, three, or five dates back to back in a single session.
- 4
Wait in the Holding Room
Bible trivia, ambient worship, and your live place in the queue while we pair you.
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Meet on video or audio
Rooms run around the clock — no host, no scheduled event to wait for.
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Debrief together
If you both choose each other, reflection prompts and a coffee meet-up planner are waiting.
Premium feature — included in your 15-day free trial
Enter a speed-dating roomIllustrative examples
The kind of profiles you'll meet.
These three are composites we wrote to show the tone of a Modesty profile — they are not live members. Real profiles live behind sign-in, where members choose who can see them.
Illustrative example
Illustrative exampleMarcus, 32
Houston, TX
Youth pastor. Praying for a partner to build a home rooted in Christ.
Illustrative exampleNia, 27
Brooklyn, NY
Nurse, choir alto. Believes love should feel like Sunday dinner.
18+
Safety, told straight.
Modesty is for adults only. Every member confirms their email address and agrees that they are a single adult 18 or older before they can join.
We do not yet run photo or government-ID verification. We're building it, and we'd rather tell you plainly than imply a level of vetting we don't do today. Until it ships, please meet in public places and take your time.
What we do have in place right now:
- Block and report any member in a tap — our team reviews every report.
- Voice and video calls happen inside Modesty, so you never share your phone number.
- Married and non-single accounts violate our terms and are removed when reported.
- You control what's visible — hide your age or last name at any time.
Read our Terms, Content Guidelines, and Privacy Policy.
Pricing
Free to join. No surprises.
Modesty Free
$0
- Create a full faith-rooted profile
- Take the compatibility assessment
- Browse members near you
- Reply to anyone who matches with you
15 days free
Modesty Premium
$34.99 / 30 days
Try everything free for 15 days. Cancel before your trial ends and pay nothing.
- Everything in Free
- Live speed-dating rooms (5–15 min video rounds)
- Unlimited likes — no daily ceiling
- See everyone who liked you
- Advanced filters: denomination, ministry, distance
- Priority placement and read receipts
Premium auto-renews every 30 days until you cancel. Cancel anytime by email, and first purchases carry a 7-day money-back guarantee. Full pricing details.
Why we built this
A sanctuary, not a marketplace.
So many of us have searched for love in spaces that asked us to dim our faith, our culture, or our standards. Modesty exists to hold the line — and to hold space — for the kind of love that begins with Christ at the center and is sustained by community, prayer, and honor.
Modesty is built and operated by Daquan Group, LLC — a small team of believers building this with prayer and care. We won't always get everything right, but we will listen, correct course quickly, and keep building something we'd trust our own sisters and brothers to use.
Questions
Before you join.
How does matching work?
You take one assessment of 40 questions covering personality, emotional intelligence, and faith practice — about five minutes. Modesty compares your answers with other members and weights shared faith practice most heavily, then surfaces the people you're most compatible with. You can also browse by distance and set your own filters.
What happens after a speed-dating room?
If you and your date both choose each other, you move into a private Debrief Room with reflection prompts to help you talk honestly about what you noticed. From there you can plan a coffee meet-up, and Modesty generates a calendar invite for it. If it wasn't a match, nothing is shared and you can rejoin the queue.
What is free, and what costs money?
Joining is free — you can create a full profile, take the matching assessment, and browse members without paying. Live speed-dating rooms are a Premium feature, and every new account gets 15 days of full Premium access so you can try them. After that, Premium is $34.99 every 30 days and adds speed-dating rooms, unlimited likes, seeing everyone who liked you, advanced filters, priority placement, and read receipts.
How do I cancel?
Email support@modesty-dating.online and we'll cancel your membership. No phone calls and no retention dance. You keep full access through the end of your current cycle, and first purchases carry a 7-day money-back guarantee.
How do you handle safety and age verification?
Every member confirms their email address and agrees they are a single adult 18 or older before joining. We do not yet run photo or government-ID verification — we are building it. In the meantime you can block and report any member, our team reviews every report, and voice and video calls happen inside Modesty so you never have to share your phone number.
Who is Modesty for?
Single Black Christian adults, 18 and over, who are dating with marriage in view — across every shade, denomination, and region. If you are married or otherwise not single, this community isn't for you.
Come as you are. Built to last.
Join a community of single Black Christians praying, dating, and preparing for covenant marriage.
Join ModestyStay in touch
support@modesty-dating.online